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"Guide to Dying – Your Way"

You can buy "Guide to Dying - Your Way" in two formats  – electronic (PDF) or hard copy.

About the Guide: Do it your way

Nobody gets off this planet alive. Dying is part of living but we rarely think about death, especially our own, until or unless we have to.

This guide is designed to do just that: to encourage you to think deeply about what you do and don’t want for yourself if worse comes to worst, and to help you put your affairs in order to increase the likelihood of achieving the death you choose, rather than leaving it all to chance. Thinking things through when you are calm, able to research the issues and able to tell the relevant people what you want, is much better than making decisions in a crisis.

When thinking about dying, it’s easy to forget that you may be in a situation where you are unable to speak for yourself, unable to communicate what you do and don’t want – for example, after a head injury, stroke or heart attack – or you may be suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, dementia or other health issues that could alter your quality of life.

An Advance Directive (AD) is literally specifying what you do and don’t want, written down, witnessed and signed. Your Agent is the person you have chosen to speak for you if and when necessary. Someone who knows and understands you and is prepared to argue for what you want.

Your completed Advance Directive acts as an important guide for your Agent who will communicate your choices. This is extremely helpful for the medical team who may not be familiar with your case, but want to provide the best care possible. It is also very helpful for your family members who otherwise may not agree with one another as to the best course of action.

This document is designed to help you through the process of creating your own AD. A form is included, plus some suggestions to help you choose your Agent and to provide advice for them.

Knowing that you have done everything you can to make sure you die the way you choose, there will be considerable peace of mind for you and those who care about you.

Fill out your Advance Directive while you can. Don’t leave it to chance.

Dr Jack Havill
Former President
End of Life Choice

How to buy the Guide

1. Electronic (PDF) – $NZD15.00

A link to download a PDF copy will be emailed to you. Note: you will not have automatic access to the PDF, because our online supplier has to process the PDF file and apply an individualised stamp. This can take from several seconds to several minutes. When the PDF is ready, you will receive a download link in your receipt, sent to the email address you supply. 

You can pay using two methods – credit card or PayPal. 

Charges will happen in USD, using an up-to-date exchange rate. Customers may incur an additional foreign transaction fee according to their cardmember agreement. We use Gumroad as our online purchasing agent.

Click here to purchase the electronic PDF $NZD15 »

2. Hard copy – $NZD25.00 ($18.00 new members)

Click here to become a member and get your hard copy for only $18.00 » 

NB: Once you've joined up, please emai with your name, address and joining reference to request your hard copy of the Guide for only $18.00. Or you can download a PDF for $17 (above).

A printed and bound copy will be posted to you.

You can pay using two methods – cheque or direct money transfer.

Cheque made out to "VES/EOLC"

Along with your cheque for $27.00 (or $18.00 if you are becoming a member), please include a note of your name and the address to which the booklet should be sent and send it to:

PO Box 48241
Upper Hutt 5124

Direct money transfer:

Using online banking, you can pay by direct transfer $25.00 (or $18.00 if you are becoming a member) to:

Please put your name in the Reference field so you can be identified.

When you've made the payment, email Central Office () to say you have sent the money and include your name and address in the email. 

As soon as your payment appears in our account, the booklet will be put in the mail to you.  

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